Love Yourself First

 

So this is something that has been on my mind. I posted this on FacebookΒ yesterday. I was good and irritated about some things and I really felt the need to say something. I hope that someone will get something out of this. Women put themselves through too much. Enough is enough!! We need to share our stories to help others. We’re all going through or have been through difficult situations. Let’s start with ourselves…

Ok…. I needa say some things. A dose of realness for you. There’s so much more I wanna say… but soon come.

Now some of these things I have been guilty of and I am going to try my hardest to make better choices.

Ladies….we need to do better.

There will be times when we give men the husband benefits for example. STOP IT. Not all men are deserving of this. Just like not all women are deserving of wifey benefits.

I’m not talking about just sex either. I’m talking about cooking, cleaning, paying bills, they’re using our transport, buying them clothes, toiletries etc.Taking care of their kids. THEIR kids(Yes it takes a village but his name is MAN and he needs to do his part). Getting mad when they are hollering at other chicks. Getting mad when they don’t wife us up. Getting mad because we don’t have a title. Getting mad when they do us wrong. Getting mad at the OTHER chick(s). BUT WE STAY…. AND GIVE THEM EVEN MOREEEEEE!!!

Now this isn’t about bashing men.

This is about WOMEN recognizing their worth. We need to stop giving them our all when they are not even giving us a sample of what we deserve. Shoot, we don’t even get the title of girlfriend sometimes, but we are letting them get drunk off of the sweet fruits of our bodies and feeding them steak and lobster off our dime.

Especially stop giving up the Jewel of the Nile. When you have sex, you open up yourself to a whollllllle lot of things. Sex f&@ks with your mind. Pun intended. When sex comes into play, ladies…. you know we take it to the next level. So do yourselves a favour and just hold off.

Now ladies….WE DO NOT NEED MEN TO VALIDATE US. We carry babies. PLURAL. A BABY comes out of our vaginas. If not they cut the baby out. We go through ALLLLLL of that. WE BLEED for ‘x’ amount of days and we don’t die. That isn’t enough validation for you???

Listen here QUEENS. STOP, DROP and ROLL AWAY from that situationship. Yes. That situationship. If you’re wondering ‘what we are’ RUN. If you are in a situationship that is going past 1 year. RUNNNNNNNNN. People know what they want faster than they let on. Humans are very intelligent. We will do what we are allowed to do for as longgggggggg as possible. Especially when there are no consequences.

We teach our kids about consequences when they do wrong, but when it comes to that guy giving you that good ting a ling..who is messing with 2 other chicks and we go broke for…. what we do??? REWARD BAD BEHAVIOUR. LOLLLLLLL and we think he stays because he loves us. Of course he stays!! He stays because he gets away with F@#%y.

Start loving yourselves QUEENS… and to the guys that take advantage.

Karma is a female. She’s got you covered. *Smooches

I can say all this because I have done it. Trusssssssst me.

Stop giving them the sweet fruits of your body. They don’t deserve it. They haven’t earned it.

You can’t even put a value on your temple.

There is no amount that could ever define how exquisite a woman is.

How exquisite her mind is.

How exquisite how body is.

ESPECIALLY when she loves herself and knows her worth.

Ladies….. we need to do better. Love yourselves. Our sons and daughters are watching.

But wait….To the older women and men. You need to set an example as well. You are JUST as responsible. We have learned some of these things from you. We have all heard the stories bout Uncle having 5 outside kids with ace gurl up de country. While Aunty was home tending to dem 10 kids and only 5 of them were hers. Kermit been sipping tea for a min, so don’t be downing the younger ladies and men, when you haven’t been held accountable for not loving yourselves either.

Now imma just gently rest my mic down and skip away.

#Peaceloveandcoconutoil
xo

 

 

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